First of
all, I really think Sexual Harassment should take things SERIOUSLY!!! I mean
when the man Harassed a woman it's a crime ok fine, but it should be as equal
as to a woman Harassing the male! I think she should get charge just as a guy
would for his Sexual Harassment! It's far! Just like if a woman hits a
guy, if the guy DEFEND himself he's in trouble, what about that woman hits on
the guy for no reason?! I'm sorry but if a woman fights like a guy, she deserves
to get punch by a guy! Every crime should be treating equally! Man and Woman
has every right to file suit, it should be the same as the same sex! Sexual
Harassment is SEXUAL HARASSMENT!! The rules I’ve learned when I was a Job Corps
about how to know someone is Sexual Harassment on you, by the way they lean
over for a hug, if they have their butts out that’s a different hug, if they
want to get to close to you type of hug, that can be sexual harassment. Placing
hands o the shoulders if they leave their hands on the shoulders for to long it
can sexual harassment! Just the tape is fine.
“The liberal idea of tolerance is more and more a kind of intolerance. What it means is 'Leave me alone; don't harass me; I'm intolerant towards your over-proximity.”
― Slavoj Žižek
― Slavoj Žižek
Every instance of sexual harassment is different. The strategy you choose will depend on many factors, including how much you can afford to risk losing your job and whether you feel you can get support from your co-workers. Race and class differences may also affect how you respond, partly because these differences in a workplace can isolate workers from one another. As you think about whether and how you might respond to sexual harassment, here are some things to consider:
- Remember that you are not to blame. Sexual harassment is imposed sexual attention. No matter how complicated the situation is, the harasser is responsible for the abuse.
- Document what happens. Keep a detailed diary including dates, times, and places. Save any notes or pictures from the harasser--don't throw them away in anger. Keep a record of anyone who witnessed the harassment.
- Investigate your workplace or school policy and grievance procedure for sexual harassment cases. Know its overall records before you act.
- Generate support for yourself before you take action: Break the silence, talk with others, and ask for help in working out a response.
- Look for others who have been harassed who can act with you. Collective action and joint complaints strengthen your position. Try to use organizations that already exist, such as your union or employee organization, or an advocacy organization for your particular racial or ethnic group.
- Let the harasser know as directly and explicitly as possible that you are not interested in his attentions. If you do this in writing, keep a copy of your letter.
“When a stranger on the street makes a sexual comment, he is making a private assessment of me public. And though I’ve never been seriously worried that I would be attacked, it does make me feel unguarded, unprotected.
Regardless of his motive, the stranger on the street makes an assumption based on my physique: He presumes I might be receptive to his unpoetic, unsolicited comments. (Would he allow a friend to say “Nice tits” to his mother? His sister? His daughter?) And although I should know better, I, too, equate my body with my soul and the result, at least sometimes, is a deep shame of both.
Rape is a thousand times worse: The ultimate theft of self-control, it often leads to a breakdown in the victim’s sense of self-worth. Girls who are molested, for instance, often go on to engage in risky behavior—having intercourse at an early age, not using contraception, smoking, drinking, and doing drugs. This behavior, it seems to me, is at least in part because their self-perception as autonomous, worthy human beings in control of their environment has been taken from them.”
― Leora Tanenbaum
Regardless of his motive, the stranger on the street makes an assumption based on my physique: He presumes I might be receptive to his unpoetic, unsolicited comments. (Would he allow a friend to say “Nice tits” to his mother? His sister? His daughter?) And although I should know better, I, too, equate my body with my soul and the result, at least sometimes, is a deep shame of both.
Rape is a thousand times worse: The ultimate theft of self-control, it often leads to a breakdown in the victim’s sense of self-worth. Girls who are molested, for instance, often go on to engage in risky behavior—having intercourse at an early age, not using contraception, smoking, drinking, and doing drugs. This behavior, it seems to me, is at least in part because their self-perception as autonomous, worthy human beings in control of their environment has been taken from them.”
― Leora Tanenbaum